Over the years, one thing I have learned from those I have assisted in their healing – physically, emotionally, and spiritually – it takes time to heal old emotional wounds. No matter what we achieve in life, if we are haunted by feelings of abandonment, rejection, or other traumas that we experienced early in life, we continue to question our abilities to be our authentic selves, personally and professionally. And, if we don’t heal these personal wounds first, it is difficult to help others heal.
Many of the workshops I have facilitated, I have been amazed on how profoundly and how necessary it is to be aware of these early experiences and their affect upon ourselves. As I spoke about and touched upon the healing of one’s heart, most of those present dissolved into tears.
I don’t see these wounds in a negative sense, since emotional wounds happen to all of us. I see them as opportunities to do what is necessary in order to recognize them for what they are and to find the inner strength and courage to heal them. Of course, there are times where you may need to work with a professional to complete this healing process.
My own search of 38 years culminated last year when I finally found my father’s brother and his wife in Hungary. My father had abandoned my family when I was two-years-old, never to be seen or heard from again. As I searched for links to my heritage, I encountered many dead-ends. I didn’t have any Internet resources that are readily available today. Also, at that time, Hungary was under Russian domination, so there was little or no information available to the outside world.
I finally found you!
Everything changed in 2008 after I found Joseph Shumway, AG, a genealogist in Utah. He was able, after a year-long search and with the help of his European associates, to locate my relatives — my aunt and uncle, both of whom are 85, now, and have been married for over 60 years.
Even though I attended self-discovery workshops and applied all the self-healing techniques that I read about in books, it wasn’t until I looked into their eyes on July 16th, 2009, in Debrecen, Hungary, did I feel that intimate connection to who I AM and my roots … and, at that moment, my soul and heart were healed.
I would like to encourage all those who want to learn about their true heritage, to follow their paths and, if they can, without expectations. Be open to all possibilities to heal your emotional wounds that have held you back from being the person you are meant to be.
It personally transformed my life, and it is my hope and desire, that you will experience this joyful transformation as well.
By: Sonia Alexandra